This is bigger than life coaching!

My coaching is Trauma Informed:

As I arrived in my mid 40’s I realized something profound. I was living with embodied TRAUMA, as most of us do. Once I healed a lot of trauma with a therapist through Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and somatic experiencing, something really cool happened. My Nervous System began to settle and for the first time I was living in my body. I was less reactive, my social anxiety dissipated and I felt more in control of my emotions. The crazy thing is, I never realized how disregulated I was, until I got regulated. And that was after 15 years of talk therapy…which I’m now realizing was a waste of time. It’s all about trauma informed care for me now. As a life coach, this is what I wanted to help people with most. I started studying the Nervous System and Brain Science and realized you can in fact rewire and regulate your nervous system with somatic based regulation tools and bilateral stimulation as you remove the trauma. I wish I realized all this decades ago. The good news is, today I am a Trauma Informed Certified Life Coach who specializes in Nervous System regulation and energy alignment - and that’s what I help you with and I incorporate a lot of tools into our work so you actually change. We don’t just talk about things, we do somatic work to shift you out of the problem into clarity. To further perfect my craft, I am currently getting a Somatic Experiencing Certification at The School of Somatic Arts in Maui, Hawaii.

Here’s why most of us feel so F’ed up:

As a result of living in a world where we are faced with daily complex traumas, our Nervous Systems get taxed and our energy gets buried. A lot of this started in childhood, when our Nervous System is mostly formed by the age of 8. But as we grow, so do general stressors. We take on other people’s BS and our own personal energy gets tainted. This keeps us from living in this world, at ease, as ourselves. Many of us are living with embodied trauma wounds and disregulated Nervous Systems, which lowers our energy, robs us of creativity, serenity and opportunity. It often begins when we’re children and many of us grow with it and alter our lives around it. Nervous System Disregulation is the culprit behind poor relationships, people pleasing, imposter syndrome, perfectionism, various addictions, emotional avoidance, trauma or trying to be someone you’re not in hopes of being acceptable to others. I sum it up to a feeling of NOT-ENOUGHNESS. It’s the energy behind the feeling, “Something is wrong but I don’t know what.” What it really all adds up to is Nervous System disregulation, trauma wounds and attachment issues stemming from unmet childhood needs. This is common.

NOT-ENOUGHNESS KEEPS YOU FROM HAVING WHAT YOU WANT OR BEING WHO YOU ARE MEANT TO BE.

In the process to become a coach, while healing my own trauma, I have been able to embrace a new energy that has allowed me to move forward from the places where I was stuck. Being coached to become a coach helped me get back to me. I rediscovered my sense of self, found my voice, got better at setting boundaries and became more unapologetic about who I am. In the process, I rewired my Nervous System, so I can feel “safe” in my body. It was so profound, that I knew I am meant to be doing this work with others.

Now, as a Trauma Informed Certified Life Coach, I’m helping clients using the same methodology (including somatic tools and practices that focus on the issues you want to move past) to get you back to YOU. I truly believe we find our way to coaches and healers thinking we need to get somewhere or accomplish a very specific goal - only to find in the process we’ve really just abandoned ourselves and that’s why we feel stuck. Part of my coaching is working with you to edge out the limiting beliefs that keep you from you. Through this process you can cultivate new energy and rewire your Nervous System in a way that allows you to live with authenticity. From here, any goal you set, you can attain and feel good about doing it.

A lot of people may tell you that you should have a specific goal when you begin working with a life coach. Sure, that’s helpful but I’m here to tell you that most of the people who have found their way to me didn’t have a goal. They just didn’t feel good and something was off and they didn’t know what but they had this inner knowing that they “needed a life coach”. We can explore all of this - in a very intuitive way, so if you’re curious on how having a life coach can serve you, there are details below on how to contact me.

To give you some background on me: I am a gay man who is in recovery from drug and alcohol addiction and I’ve healed compulsive patterns and childhood/relationship trauma through a combination of therapy, trauma healing modalities, recovery programs, self-help and life coaching. I have suffered with mental health issues at various times in my life, including Bi-Polar, ADHD and Complex PTSD and through various treatment modalities, medication and routine, I am successfully managing them. Therapy and psychiatry have been very beneficial in that process, but working with a life coach added a new dimension to my ability to grow and move forward in life because I have been able to take action. It’s part of the reason I became a life coach - to help others move forward. I have a lot of experience working with people who have struggled with addiction and mental health, as well as trauma, abuse and betrayal. I bring all my understanding, compassion and life experience to our relationship so I can support you in the way you need. I’m also a big believer in metaphysics, law of attraction and energy work; depending on your beliefs, that can be brought into the coaching process as well. We work with tools that get to the root of issues and I also offer tools that you can use on a daily basis to stay present, maintain your energy and feel good being you. It’s a very practical approach and I see vast improvement in just a few sessions.

Coaching gives you a chance to live your life moving forward, breaking old patterns and confidently accomplishing your goals. The experience is unique to each person and your coaching is customized to what you’d like to achieve. I promise it will be equal parts rewarding, challenging and enjoyable. If you feel curious to learn more, I’d love to talk so we can get to know each other. If you’re not sure what brought you here, it’s a sign you’re meant to be here. See below on how to get in touch!

Is trauma informed coaching for you?

Never had a life coach before? Not sure what you’re looking for? And not sure it’s me?

GET IN TOUCH and LET’S see if we’re a fit!

The term “Life Coach” is so broad I almost don’t like it. I am a Trauma Informed Certified Life Coach and I’ve been trained in “all the things” but in my experience, each person needs something different. We work together and tailor to your needs, a goal you might have or maybe you’re at a place in your life you want to get out of. Whether you need accountability, tools or just some direction, I’m here fore it. Send me a note below and we’ll get to know each other and I can answer any questions!